The best piece of advice I can give

When I presented at The Embodiment Conference a couple weeks ago, Rafe Kelley asked me a question at the end that caught me off guard: “What is the Number 1 piece of advice you can give for people to be more embodied?”

To be honest, I probably should have asked myself this question before even preparing for my presentation…but I didn’t. So I wasn’t prepared to answer his question.

The answer I gave at the time was to not let others’ eyes negatively influence your PLAY. As in, don’t worry about judgement. Just do what’s best for you.

In retrospect, I think that’s actually #3 in my book. There’s something even more important than that (#2 is listed later, too).

Pay attention and listen.

Really. That’s it. Just pay attention and listen. If you do just those things, you’ll know what’s actually best for you. This applies to movement, rehab, nutrition, social interactions, self-interactions, environment, products you use, activities, careers, partners……everything.

When you pay attention, you are not letting other people’s opinions or research (which is NEVER 100% applicable to everyone) dictate what actually works for you.

“Wait, but they said that garlic is good for killing parasites. I get a reaction when I eat garlic, so I’ll only eat it medicinally so I can kill possible parasites.” (This was an actual conversation I had with someone just recently).

So here’s the thing, just because Thing A is good for Condition A in many people, or just in general, doesn’t mean that YOU should take Thing A when you have Condition A, especially if you have a negative reaction when taking Thing A. You have to find an alternative solution to treat Condition A. This is like why they ask if you have any allergies to medication when you go to the doctor.

There’s ALWAYS another way.

Keep looking until you find one that works for you.

That’s probably #2 on the importance list.

But #2 can’t happen unless you do #1 first. Pay attention to yourself, see what YOU as an individual likes, don’t like. What helps, what doesn’t, and what makes you worse (in any way). From there, you can look for solutions that work.

By the way, Paying Attention is a skill. It takes practice. You may find yourself missing details at first, but it’s ok. Just keep trying. You’ll get better. I promise.

In Health and Happiness,


PS….They’re doing a FREE REPLAY of the entire conference this upcoming weekend here, if you missed some presentations during the live sessions. And I believe they’re also doing a massive discount on upgrades, if you’re interested.

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